Here are 10 practical ways to feel better when you are feeling down.

#1 Depression is stagnation

I usually start feeling down / off when I am not trying / doing new things. When I’ve been doing, thinking, feeling the same things over and over and haven’t done anything to change that, my anxiety turns into a monster. Whenever, in turn, I do something new, that’s a little out of my comfort zone (meet new people, post something controversial, start thinking about a new hobby) I start feeling inspired and “energy is generated” for that pursuit.

#2 I’m not depressed, I’m just bored

Sometimes I need to be slapped across the face because instead of enjoying the amazing things I have, I consciously seek out things that are wrong with me / my situation. Maybe you just have too much time on your hands and need someone to slap the entitlement out of you.

#3 Perspective is everything

The glass half full is still an applicable explanation. There are two ways of looking at things. Either everything is working in your favour or it is not. For example: two people walk through a park. One sees the homeless man, the trash spread on the floor, the burned grass. The other one hears the birds chirping, the flowers growing and the people laughing. Which do you think feels better upon leaving the park?

#4 Unleashing sexual energy

According to sex and relationship coach Kim Anami sexual energy is creative life force energy that needs to be harvested for us to live our full, uninhibited life. In our society sex has been suppressed and villainized so people do not step fully into their power and outside the control of the system. We are cutting ourselves off from an infinite and powerful source of energy, it is not surprise people feel off in their bodies. Mantak Chia is also a prominent modern teacher on the topic. In essence, if your sexual energy is flowing freely, you will have no time or need to be depressed. Every cell of your body will be illuminated with the joy and light of orgasmic power.

#5 Psychedelics

I will not recommend this, because this is a slippery slope, but psychedelics have worked wonders for some people in healing trauma, PTSD, connecting with God, etc. Do your own research.

#6 Negative, limiting, false beliefs

A lot of times we have negative / limiting beliefs. Things we believe about ourselves / the world that just isn’t true. Sometimes it is hard to spot them, however triggering situations are a great opportunity for that. Here is a practical exercise I learned from Lisa Nichols that can help identify and replace limiting beliefs.

#7 Outside help

Then there’s always practitioners. Conventional therapy can helps, but new methods such as EMDR and Brainspotting are emerging. These methods work on the deeper connections of the brain that are hard to access with simple conversation. The same goes for skilled practitioners in energy medicine, that can see patterns/ issues that are hard to spot by yourself.

#8 Exercise

I don’t know how much you exercise, but if you spend time outdoors, running / doing some kind of challenging cardio + working out it is impossible you won’t feel better. It has to be consistent and something that pushes you just a little past your (imaginary) limit.

#9 Real self care

Where you make time for what your really love and do things you haven’t been letting yourself do. This is different for everyone and I challenge you to make a list of 5 small things that make you feel better and you enjoy doing to come back to.

#10 Make a list of your achievements

Even though many of us were taught though punishment, this lovely gentleman right here comes to the conclusion that we actually learn better through praise (of ourselves and others). We need to be shown what to do, instead of berated about what not to do. You can watch the whole video here, I highly recommend. He concludes with the the advice to make a list of all your good qualities and achievements to come back to when you are feeling down. Maybe stick it on your bathroom mirror?

Hope this helps!

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