If someone likes you, they’ll let you know.

The movie “He’s just not that into you” dishes us the hard cold truth.

If you have to reach out three times in a row just to receive half-asses texts, s/he’s just not that into you.

If you have to wonder over and over again, “Does he like me?” “Why would he do that?” “It’s okay, he’s just a boy,” then he probably doesn’t. Applies to the opposite gender as well.

Think of yourself, when you’re head over heels for someone and when your kinda into someone, but not really. Season 5 episode 16 of “How I Met Your Mother” titled “Hooked” gives us great insight into a situation where you keep someone around just because they’re comfortable.

Have enough self respect to take yourself off the hook. Please stop reaching out and bury the possibility of a relationship in your head and heart.

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Use this moment to catalyse that pain-misunderstanding-annoyance and alchemise it into something powerful.

Ask yourself these questions,

PAUSE

TAKE 3 DEEP BREATHS

ACTUALLY ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS

What parts of myself am I still not accepting?

What parts of myself can I love more?

What part of my self-actualisation can I take more action in?

You get the gist. Take this opportunity to up level yourself.

Start going to the gym.

Make a plan and start executing on it.

Do the inner work.

Start dressing more feminine/ masculine.

Pursue your passions.

Deal with your remaining insecurities.

Because it’s supposed to be easy. You should be drawn to each other effortlessly without games and manipulations. When it’s real, you won’t have to ask yourself, sadly on the windowsill, “Does he like me?”

If you choose to take the high road and not force what is not meant for you, you will benefit immensely.

You will come into your authentic flow and when the time is right and the right person comes along, you will be ready.