The biggest flex in life is the power of non-attachment. Connected to everything, attached to nothing. A “take it or leave it – I’ll be fine either way” attitude. Loving, appreciating, and respecting yourself enough that a rejection doesn’t phase you.

To know your worth that you are okay presenting what you have right now* and be okay with being received/ rejected/ loved/ disregarded/ obsessed by/ hated.

*by presenting what you have right now I mean: meeting people, posting on social media, sharing your art and creations, starting your business, making merchandise. AKA exposing yourself & your gifts to the world.

The big difference

The big difference between happy people and unhappy people is that unhappy people think a lot. They hide a lot. They calculate a lot. They’re not their true selves around people in person and online. They are afraid that if they show who they *really are*, they will be rejected and shunned. So they prefer to play games, following fear and accepting unhappiness.

True happiness comes from exposing who you are. Like Georgia to Paul at the end of Season 2 (Ginny & Georgia on Netflix).

Happy people are okay with being judged. They don’t love and (& they’re probably scared of it too), but they know that it is a very low price to pay for living out your dreams. They accept being judged by people in exchange for living out the desires of their hearts.

Of course, it would be great if we were completely supported by our families/ friends/ acquaintances/ society, but unfortunately that is not the case. Because of years (centuries?) of living in misalignment due to societal and political pressures, we don’t know how to live in accordance with spirit anymore.

We don’t know how to live in according with the call of our hearts. Because this call disagrees strongly with the status quo. Many of us would rather keep the peace and remain “part of the tribe” rather than be who we are. The only way to change the overarching narrative and for wild acceptance to become the norm is for courageous individuals to take action.

In business: Chasing vs attracting customers

To attract customers you need to know:

• who you are,
• what exactly it is that you offer,
• who do you offer it for.

Then, you need to be able to share this offer with the world.

This is where 70% of people fail. You either don’t come up with an offer or if you do, you then don’t have the courage to share it.

If you half-heartedly and timidly promote your offer, you are probably overly attached to the result. Because you aren’t clear on the value you provide, you are reliant on the customer to offer it. In this scenario, creators chase and force conversions in the form of cold calling, incessant follow ups, and discounts.

It’s okay to not know your value in the beginning. To raise it, work on yourself and your thinking, be around people with high value, and practice your craft!

In business: The bottom line

The bottom line is, whoever is ready for your offer will take it. Whoever isn’t, won’t be convinced with an extra call or a discount. Even if they are, you will never truly know if their heart is in it.

I once offered a 4-pack group coaching to a group of 11 individuals. I priced it at $50(!) AKA super low to guarantee success. Only 4 people signed up.

Or for example I looooove pilates. I am willing to pay the higher price tag of $20-$40 per class because it’s right up my alley. It hits the spot and the money I spend on the membership saves me money on a therapist. If someone asked me to spend that on let’s say boxing, I’d say “Hell nah.”

That is to say, there are people who will vibe with you *specifically* and will love what you have to offer.

Your only responsibility is to align yourself with your purpose and message, share that message confidently, and then receive. Of course, there is a place for FOMO messaging, like “offer expires at 23:59” to nudge the people who are on the fence.

The people who do end up signing up, already wanted to, they just needed an excuse to do it. This method is very different to following up with one person over and over though.

In life

I’m a hustler. I love to push people and things. Make them happen. I feel like time is running out and I only have a certain amount of time to make it happen. If I just work hard it will work out. Does that sound like you?

There is an overarching plan in my opinion. Sometimes all the chips and CRENES are not in place. No matter how hard we push, sweat, cry, and force, we cannot move fate.

All that we create is stress and tension.

We block a lot of good things by scurrying and rushing.

With maturing, I’ve come to realize that what is meant to happen will happen. What isn’t, won’t, no matter how hard I push.

There is such a thing as divine timing. Make it easier on yourself and just let things be the way they are.

Read that again. Let things be the way they are. And like a sloth, slowly move in the direction of your dreams.

Slowly. Like a sloth. Not like a fruit-fly. Conserve your energy. Use the power of the flow.

In romantic relationships

We want to be loved. We want to be accepted. This need is the strongest in romantic relationships. In finding a partner.

This is where the neediest behaviour can come through.

Do you remember triple texting a date you thought went well? Remember obsessing over someone who wasn’t really that into you? Remember thinking, “If only I did *this* right, it would have worked out.”

The truth is they’re just not that into you.

What is important to remember is that you are invaluable. The sexiest people are the ones who know not to attach. Yes, it would be cool if this worked out, but I don’t *need* you. The way to get to that state is to keep increasing your self-worth, keep living your best life, and your person will show up.

Just like in business, life, or creative pursuits, you just can’t force it. Raise you level of self-esteem and your person will come along.

In creative pursuits

Why is it so hard sharing our art (paintings, poems, creations) with the world? Because we associate them as part of us. If they get rejected, we get rejected.

See the red thread here?

If you’re okay with being rejected because *you* give yourself that final stamp of approval. You’re the one who approves of yourself. You could have thousands fawning over you and if you don’t believe you’re worth it, you just won’t get there. The opposite it true as well. You could have the whole world pointing fingers, but if you truly hold that vision, impossible is nothing.

You could have thousands fawning over you and if you don’t believe you’re worth it, you just won’t get there.

Conclusion

Start practicing today. Put yourself out there as much as you can and be your biggest cheerleader.

If it didn’t happen, it wasn’t meant to be. Try to do better every day, but also accept yourself the way you are.